Sex Sling

Let’s say you’ve gotten over the Madonna/whore complex and now you’ve attained a comfortable level of dating. You’ve been going out with a couple of different guys, and then you meet one that—kind of, sort of, possibly, not really, maybe — isn’t half-bad. Read the rest of this entry »

Most marriage education courses focus on communication skills, with some discussion of sex, commitment, and other aspects of relationships. Read the rest of this entry »

There is no reason to be sexually bored in a monogamous relationship. No reason, that is, except for a few million years of polygamous human evolution. And a brain constructed without any consideration for monogamy. And a natural human preference for sexual novelty and variety. And some subtle “permission” from society to fool around. And all the attendant pressures of just being in the same house with the same person every day. Read the rest of this entry »

Now, you knew that this expectation thing wasn’t a one-way street. If you want her to live up to your expectations, you have to live up to hers. Here are some of the more common expectations women have and ways you can satisfy them. Read the rest of this entry »

Monotony or no monotony, monogamy is far more emotionally and physically satisfying than playing the field. It’s true—you can look it up. Read the rest of this entry »

Make it one-way. Here’s another way to communicate your kissing druthers—and it can be a major turn-on in and of itself. “Tell her not to kiss back for a minute or two or three while you kiss her the way you like to kiss“. “Then reverse the roles.” The assertive role is exciting for the kisser, the holding back thrilling for the kissee. And in the bargain, you both get a living picture of the other’s idea of great kissing. Read the rest of this entry »

But it’s also a cultural thing. “You get horrible messages from the culture”. “Like the idea that sex is dirty unless you save it for marriage. Even if you do save it for marriage, you still carry around with you the `sex is dirty’ part.” Read the rest of this entry »

Conversation = Competition

You know the phrase “the gentle art of conversation“? It was not devised by a man.

Men tend to perceive conversation with a mate as a form of competition or challenge— like playing office politics or jockeying for position in the passing lane. When we’re asked a question, we don’t just answer—we want to give the right answer (or the right excuse). If talking turns into a debate or argument, naturally we want to win it. If the conversation revolves around our partner’s problems, 9 times out of 10, we’ll move into advice-giving mode, trying to come up with solutions to the puzzle laid out before us. Read the rest of this entry »

There’s little doubt among sex researchers and there pints that explicit sex on videotape can tune up your skills while it turns you on. “If you want to learn to do things. you do better by watching,” a psychologist who specializes in marriage and sex therapy. Read the rest of this entry »

It took two to perform most sex acts. Now that you’re overcoming your own inhibitions, you still have hers to think about.

Take oral sex, for example.

Yeah, we know, you’d be glad to. But will she provide it just as gladly? The Sex survey in America found that while a not-so-surprising 83 percent of men consider it appealing to receive oral sex, only 57 percent of women consider giving it appealing. What’s more, almost a third of women (32 percent) don’t even like receiving oral sex. There’s a discrepancy here. Read the rest of this entry »

Women say they want us to kiss them more. Then they complain about how we do it. What’s a guy to do? For starters, know what not to do. Here’s a list of women’s complaints. Read the rest of this entry »

Better Than You, Buddy

You knew women were a breed apart from us; you just had no idea to what extent that was true. It’s not just breasts, soft skin, and quarts of estrogen that make the difference between the genders. For instance, language skills come more easily to women than men. Read the rest of this entry »

Sight, sound, smell, taste and touch are the five senses of the body through which we define our experiences of life. When our senses are heightened we feel alive and vibrant and connected from the depth of our being to the world beyond. The physical senses touch and effect every aspect of our mental, emotional and spiritual make up. The sight of a beautiful flower, the song of a bird, the perfume of a rose, the satisfaction of good food, and the caress of a lover can fill us with happiness, affect our thoughts positively, and uplift our spirit. Read the rest of this entry »

You are now ready for the most important source of sexual arousal —the human brain. That’s right! We believe the greatest—and perhaps only— aphrodisiac lies right there between your ears. We know that love and lust and anticipation and tenderness are all very wonderful turn-ons. By all means, they supersede anything else we are talking about. But what should you do when these do not seem to be as effective for turning you on as they once were? Read the rest of this entry »

The essence of Cedarwood is a profoundly evocative oil when used to open up the emotions, helping lovers to enter into the spirit of the here and now in lovemaking, which can give their physical union a more spiritual dimension. Read the rest of this entry »

When added to a blend of aphrodisiac oils, bergamot’s uplifting, enticing and refreshing properties can greatly enhance the sensual mood of lovers. Whether it is used in an aromatic burner, or blended with oils to be used in a massage, its delightful lemon and floral aroma will do much to lift and balance a loved one’s spirit. Adding the component of happiness and contentment to a blend — bergamot is indeed a gift to any relationship. Read the rest of this entry »

Black pepper adds spice and vitality to a love life. With its warming, penetrating and strengthening properties, black pepper has earned itself a reputation as an aphrodisiac. Its amber oil extract is used to rekindle the flame of passion when a relationship has cooled either from lack of interest or familiarity. Read the rest of this entry »

The herb basil has a sweet, spicy aroma, with a hint of camphor, and has many associations with love, seduction and fertility. As an aphrodisiac essence, basil has gained a reputation for awakening the senses, and arousing the most basic sexual instincts — it was used by young Italian women to charm and bewitch the men of their desires. Read the rest of this entry »

Euphoric is the word most commonly associated with clary sage. A deeply sensual oil, reputed to have aphrodisiac qualities, clary sage has relaxing and calming properties that can decrease inhibitions. Read the rest of this entry »