Sex Sling

Now, you knew that this expectation thing wasn’t a one-way street. If you want her to live up to your expectations, you have to live up to hers. Here are some of the more common expectations women have and ways you can satisfy them. Read the rest of this entry »

Monotony or no monotony, monogamy is far more emotionally and physically satisfying than playing the field. It’s true—you can look it up. Read the rest of this entry »

Make it one-way. Here’s another way to communicate your kissing druthers—and it can be a major turn-on in and of itself. “Tell her not to kiss back for a minute or two or three while you kiss her the way you like to kiss“. “Then reverse the roles.” The assertive role is exciting for the kisser, the holding back thrilling for the kissee. And in the bargain, you both get a living picture of the other’s idea of great kissing. Read the rest of this entry »

But it’s also a cultural thing. “You get horrible messages from the culture”. “Like the idea that sex is dirty unless you save it for marriage. Even if you do save it for marriage, you still carry around with you the `sex is dirty’ part.” Read the rest of this entry »

Conversation = Competition

You know the phrase “the gentle art of conversation“? It was not devised by a man.

Men tend to perceive conversation with a mate as a form of competition or challenge— like playing office politics or jockeying for position in the passing lane. When we’re asked a question, we don’t just answer—we want to give the right answer (or the right excuse). If talking turns into a debate or argument, naturally we want to win it. If the conversation revolves around our partner’s problems, 9 times out of 10, we’ll move into advice-giving mode, trying to come up with solutions to the puzzle laid out before us. Read the rest of this entry »

There’s little doubt among sex researchers and there pints that explicit sex on videotape can tune up your skills while it turns you on. “If you want to learn to do things. you do better by watching,” a psychologist who specializes in marriage and sex therapy. Read the rest of this entry »

It took two to perform most sex acts. Now that you’re overcoming your own inhibitions, you still have hers to think about.

Take oral sex, for example.

Yeah, we know, you’d be glad to. But will she provide it just as gladly? The Sex survey in America found that while a not-so-surprising 83 percent of men consider it appealing to receive oral sex, only 57 percent of women consider giving it appealing. What’s more, almost a third of women (32 percent) don’t even like receiving oral sex. There’s a discrepancy here. Read the rest of this entry »

Women say they want us to kiss them more. Then they complain about how we do it. What’s a guy to do? For starters, know what not to do. Here’s a list of women’s complaints. Read the rest of this entry »